Autistic Homecoming Queen: How I Passed as Neurotypical for 30 Years // Autism in Women

Mom on the Spectrum β€’ January 8, 2022
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Mom on the Spectrum

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Hi, I’m Taylor. I'm a late-diagnosed autistic mom, creator, and educator learning how to live more gently while getting to know my neurodivergent brain. I found out I was autistic at 31, and suddenly many of my repeated struggles made sense. That relief and clarity is something I wish I could give to anyone who has been wondering why life feels different for you. This channel is where we work through shame, drop the mask, and connect with people who understand how overwhelming this process can be. Whether you’re late-diagnosed, self-diagnosed, or still exploring, you’re welcome here exactly as you are. πŸŽ₯ ⭐️ New videos premiere most Wednesdays at 2 PM CT. If you’re wanting more of that feeling of being seen, my Connection Groups are a space for honest conversation and genuine support (links below). I’m not a doctor, just a human sharing lived experience. Please talk with your healthcare provider before making medical decisions based on anything you see here.

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Someone recently asked me if it’s possible to be diagnosed as autistic even if you appear socially skilled or even successful. The answer? A resounding YES! In this video I explore some of the ways I unknowingly navigated high school to appear socially successful even though I didn’t feel that way inside. πŸ‘‰ 🚨 Download my FREE Ultimate Guide to Understanding Autism: https://www.momonthespectrum.life/guide πŸ’» 🎭 ONLINE COURSE How to Unmask https://www.momonthespectrum.life/how-to-unmask 🌟 ⏩ Connect with others like you in an Autistic Connection Group: https://www.momonthespectrum.life/community ❀️ 🧑 πŸ’› MY FAVORITE THINGS πŸ’š πŸ’™ πŸ’œ ONO Fidget Roller (affiliate link): http://bit.ly/3xLZnQY (use code: MOMONTHESPECTRUM for 10% off at checkout) Flare Earbuds for Sensory Overwhelm (affiliate link): https://www.flareaudio.com/momonthespectrum Manta Weighted Sleep Mask (affiliate link): https://mantasleep.pxf.io/momonthespectrum (use code: MOMONTHESPECTRUM for 10% off at checkout) Scroll down for Autistic Resources and Timestamps πŸ“ͺ Business Mailing Address πŸ“¬ Taylor Heaton 8901 Tehama Ridge Parkway, Suite 127 PMB 680 Fort Worth, TX 76177 🌟 MORE RESOURCES: https://www.momonthespectrum.life πŸŸ₯🟧🟨 SUPPORT THE CHANNEL 🟩🟦πŸŸͺ 1️⃣ If you have been positively impacted by the channel and would like to show your support, you can do so in the following ways πŸ€— 🟒 Venmo: @TaylorHeaton πŸ”΅ PayPal: paypal.me/MomOnTheSpectrum 2️⃣ MELTDOWN SURVIVAL GUIDE β­οΈβœ¨πŸ€©πŸ’ƒπŸ’ͺ Name Your Price for my custom-created 11-page Meltdown Survival Guide to help you make it through the tough times. πŸ‘‰ https://taylorheaton.gumroad.com/l/meltdownsurvivalguide πŸ‘πŸ» FREE πŸ‘πŸ» WAYS TO SHOW YOUR SUPPORT 🦾 πŸŸ₯ SUBSCRIBE to the channel 🟧 LIKE the videos that are helpful to you 🟨 COMMENT in the comment section 🟩 Click the β€œbell” to be notified when I release new videos πŸ™ Thank you immensely to those of you who have already donated, been active on the channel, and/or purchased the Meltdown Survival Guide! # WhatDreamsAreMadeOf # IsThisMyLife ⏰ Timestamps πŸ•° Why I Started My Channel (1:06) What is Homecoming? (2:13) My Social β€œSuccess” Strategies (4:50) The Negative Consequences (24:12) How to Support the Autistic Community (25:48) Taylor’s Soapbox (26:52) CAT-Q Questionnaire (29:03) Mom on the Spectrum Resources (29:33) πŸ’» Autistic Resources πŸ“• Mom on the Spectrum Resources: https://taylorheaton.gumroad.com/ CAT-Q Questionnaire: https://embrace-autism.com/cat-q/ Questionnaires and Assessments: https://www.embrace-autism.com Autistic Community and Resources: https://www.aspergerexperts.com Female Chart of Characteristics: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3SQFb01SlrY&t=1s πŸ–₯ Autistic YouTubers πŸŽ₯ Orion Kelly: https://www.youtube.com/c/orionkelly Gemma’s Journey Grace: https://www.youtube.com/c/Gemma%E2%80%99sJourneyGrace Olivia Hops: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCWryFHAlROoL-upxgaF_4w πŸŒΏπŸƒπŸͺ΄πŸŒΏπŸƒπŸͺ΄πŸŒΏπŸƒπŸͺ΄πŸŒΏπŸƒπŸͺ΄πŸŒΏπŸƒπŸͺ΄ I'm Tay, a married mom of 2 who was diagnosed with Autism at 31 years old. This was after YEARS of therapy (and all of the self tests in the world!). My diagnosis has brought up questions, frustration, doubt, but most importantly, a new level of self compassion and understanding. I'm here to share knowledge, resources, and products that empower other neurodivergents (and their loved ones) to live freely and creatively. I'm not a doctor so please speak with your healthcare providers before implementing any recommendations I make on my channel. Females are under-diagnosed due to lack of research. Please share any videos that are helpful to you so we can spread awareness and acceptance. Music by Milky Wayvers ("Mountain") https://soundcloud.com/freetousemusic/milky-wayvers-mountain #autism #autistic #aspergers

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