Do You Not Like Sex or Do You Just Not Like Patriarchal Sex?

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Why is it so hard to center women in heterosexual sex? So. Many. Reasons. We unpack them in this video. – Video Chapters – 00:00 Introduction 00:20 Why do so many married straight women not enjoy sex? 02:06 The key to good sex 02:24 Centering women in heterosexual sex 03:14 Women's anatomy, left out 04:31 Why sex might not feel good for a woman 05:16 Fun versus consequences, who bears the burden? 06:33 Review: How are men centered in sex? 07:03 Historical context: The creation story 07:44 Historical context: Laws of coverture 08:56 The pressure to please 09:43 Purity culture vs. rape culture 11:34 "Withholding sex" 14:20 Pressure vs. pleasure — overcoming patriarchal sex norms 17:39 Outro and introduction to Celeste Davis How did patriarchy begin? We made a video about that. — check it out: https://youtu.be/LAqVPlS1Q-s?si=lvfvxh6OGhokvh59 What Were the Laws of Coverture and How Did They Erase Women? We made a video about that. — https://youtu.be/9tF4T99zLR4?si=b34FUOjt7ZFRNuL8 Check out Celeste's Substack! https://celestemdavis.substack.com/ Additional Reading: Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski Ejaculate Responsibly, by Gabrielle Blair I Have Devoted My Life to the Clitoris, by Elizabeth Hall About: Amy McPhie Allebest is a scholar, historian, writer, and independent podcast host. Allebest began the Breaking Down Patriarchy project during her master’s degree at Stanford University in 2020. Her studies there served as the catalyst for the project and podcast. In addition to the project, Allebest is best known for her viral 2016 Medium article titled “Dear Mormon Man, Tell Me What You Would Do.” The Breaking Down Patriarchy project uses essential historical texts to better understand the origins of patriarchy and to deconstruct its unjust effects on our minds, relationships, and communities. The project envisions a world in which all human beings are able to flourish and reach their unique potential. We strive to include as many voices as possible, and our work is intersectional and inclusive. We are also firmly committed to the well-being of boys and men, and we enthusiastically and gratefully enlist the help of our non-female allies in creating an egalitarian world where everyone can thrive. - Where To Find Us - Listen to our podcast!! Available wherever you listen to podcasts. Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-down-patriarchy/id1546812743 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bdownpatriarchy/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakingdownpatriarchy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BreakingDownPatriarchy Podcast YouTube: @BreakingDownPatriarchyPodcast Website: https://breakingdownpatriarchy.com/ Starring Amy McPhie Allebest and Celeste Davis Written by Amy McPhie Allebest and Celeste Davis Videographer and Editor: Ralph Blair