How to Actually Communicate to A Dismissive Avoidant - THIS Helps Them See Their Part

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Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmen... If you’ve ever tried to express your needs to a Dismissive Avoidant and felt shut down, misunderstood, or stonewalled, you’re not imagining it. Dismissive Avoidants often communicate through actions rather than words, are deeply sensitive to criticism, and may withdraw when they feel overwhelmed or unsure of how to meet your needs. In this episode, you’ll learn how to communicate clearly, compassionately, and effectively with a Dismissive Avoidant without abandoning yourself, and without triggering their defenses. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why Dismissive Avoidants struggle with communication and shares a practical, step-by-step framework to help you express your needs in a way that builds emotional safety, clarity, and connection. You’ll learn: Why Dismissive Avoidants believe everyone should be responsible for themselves How criticism can wound them more deeply than they show Why they often fall into learned helplessness around communication Exactly how to phrase your needs so they can be heard How to validate their feelings without pushing them into vulnerability too fast How to address stonewalling directly, kindly, and securely This approach not only helps the relationship, it also supports your own regulation, boundaries, and self-worth. Key Takeaways ✔ Dismissive Avoidants are conditioned toward hyper-independence, not interdependence ✔ Communicating in the positive reduces defensiveness and withdrawal ✔ Clear, specific examples prevent confusion and learned helplessness ✔ Repeating needs is not “too much”, it’s how subconscious patterns change ✔ Validation creates emotional safety without forcing vulnerability ✔ Stonewalling must be addressed calmly and directly to maintain healthy boundaries Timestamps 00:00 – Communicating With Dismissive Avoidants 01:30 – Dismissive Avoidants Believe We Are All Responsible for Ourselves 03:33 – Needs Course Promo 04:26 – Dismissive Avoidants Are Easily Wounded by Criticism 04:49 – Often Get Into Learned Helplessness With Communication 05:38 – A) Communicate in the Positive 07:22 – B) Give Clear and Specific Examples 09:33 – C) See Your Needs Through 12:53 – Validate Their Feelings 13:50 – Call Out Stonewalling Directly and Kindly Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmen... 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmen... 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmen... 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschoo... Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram:   / thepersonaldevelopmentschool   📘 Facebook:   / thepersonaldevelopmentschool   🎵 TikTok:   / thaisgibson   💼 LinkedIn:   / thepersonaldevelopmentschool   #AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #HealingAttachment #PersonalDevelopment #Relationships #EmotionalNeeds #ThaisGibson