How to Design Your Life (A Full Step-by-Step Process)

Mel Robbins ‱ September 8, 2025
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Mel Robbins is the creator and host of The Mel Robbins Podcast, one of the most successful podcasts in the world, and a #1 New York Times bestselling author. She has 40M followers and is known globally for practical tools on mindset and behavior change. The Wall Street Journal calls her a “billion-view podcaster,” and TIME says she gives millions “a reason to believe in themselves.” Her books are published in 63 languages. The Let Them Theory is a #1 bestseller across every major list and a top-selling book of 2025 with more than 8M copies sold. She also wrote The 5 Second Rule and The High 5 Habit, and has seven #1 Audible releases. Her company, 143 Studios, produces award-winning podcasts, books, courses, and events for partners like Starbucks, Ulta Beauty, JP Morgan Chase, LinkedIn, and Audible. She has been honored by TIME 100 Digital Voices, Forbes 50 Over 50, USA Today, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and The Hollywood Reporter.

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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 đŸ”„ Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — This episode comes with a free companion workbook to help you design your life. Get it here → http://melrobbins.com/designyourlife Today, you’re getting a step-by-step process for designing the life you want. Right now, you might think that “designing your life” sounds impossible, or that it’s something reserved for people with more time, money, or resources. But what if it wasn’t just a nice idea? What if it was a simple, concrete, and clear process you could start right now? Here’s the truth: You have the power to design the exact life you’ve always wanted and today you’re getting the blueprint to make it happen. In this episode, Mel sits down with Debbie Millman. Debbie is “one of the most creative people in business” according to Fast Company, and is a professor who has been teaching a course on designing your life for over a decade at the School of Visual Arts. Graphic Design USA calls her “one of the most influential designers working today,” and today she is here to teach you the lessons from her renowned course on life design. Debbie will show you that no matter where you are right now, no matter how stuck, lost, or uncertain you feel, you can start creating a more intentional, meaningful future. In this episode, you’ll learn: -The exact questions to ask yourself to create your dream life -The most important choices that can change your life -How to stop focusing on what’s probable and start thinking about what’s possible -The exact steps that allow you to create your dream reality -The one mistake that will sabotage your vision, and how to avoid it Plus, Mel and Debbie have created a free workbook to walk you through the step-by-step process of designing your own remarkable life, and you can download it here: http://melrobbins.com/designyourlife For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-323/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. 00:00 Meet the Guest 1:39 Introduction 05:14 Why Possibility Matters More Than Probability 08:09 The 10-Year Exercise That Changes Lives 14:37 How to Start Designing the Life You Want 26:13 How to Take Up Space in Your Own Life 30:36 The Truth About “Not Knowing What You Want” 37:13 This Is What Self-Sabotage Really Looks Like 48:23 The Most Crucial Step: Admit What You Really Want 54:56 Why It’s So Hard to Imagine a Better Future 01:02:51 Don’t Fake It Till You Make It — Make It Till You Make It — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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