How to Ditch Defensive Reactions and Communicate Better in Conflict - Terri Cole

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Learn how to stop being defensive and communicate better during conflict. Discover practical, tools to manage emotional reactions, stay calm, and respond with empathy instead of blame. This episode teaches you how to validate emotions, use “I statements,” and handle difficult conversations without shutting down or attacking back. Transform defensiveness into self-awareness, improve your emotional intelligence, and create stronger connections in your relationships, work, and everyday life. 📝 Get your guide at: https://www.terricole.com/guide 🔑 Unlock my membership: https://terricole.com/tcm 📚 Get my books: Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9 The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com 🪔 Meditate with me: Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!) Connect With Me 📸 Instagram: https://terricole.com/ig 📩 Newsletter: https://terricole.com/newsletter Time Stamps 0:00 - Introduction and Welcome 1:30 - Understanding Defensiveness as Self-Protection 3:14 - The Cost of Defensiveness in Relationships 4:31 - Family Patterns and Downloaded Blueprints 5:25 - "Say This, Not That" for Receiving Feedback 9:22 - Professional Defensiveness and Power Dynamics 11:45 - Handling Feedback in Friendships 13:08 - "Say This, Not That" for Giving Feedback 16:05 - Mindset Shift and Challenge 17:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos https://youtu.be/Ge34zyIhBRI?si=LNDW_MjTzyMPfdbI - Stop Being Defensive + Learn to Listen | Effective Communication Tips https://youtu.be/thPuQxYeWw0?si=7HJA23Psp6mX52FE - 7 Strategies To Stop Being So Defensive https://youtu.be/BDLLGVCSulE?si=L1VthogexLEwCKrJ - How to Communicate With a Defensive or Conflict-Avoidant Partner https://youtu.be/xpkjFkhK6tg?si=mJ_MCYH4FPE4eqjX - How to Effectively Communicate During Conflict (Without Making it Worse!) About Terri Cole Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust. #communication #effectivecommunication #conflictresolution #terricoleshow