How to never find love, with Esther Perel

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In this episode of the Harvest Series podcast, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins host Rose Claverie to unpack the complexities of modern relationships. Drawing on four decades of transformative therapeutic work, Esther delves into the dynamics of intimacy, the challenges of long-term partnerships, and the evolving nature of love and desire. She also shares surprising personal reflections—like what she’d focus on if relationships were off the table and her own practices for being a better partner. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Esther Perel and the Podcast 02:30 Why Relationships Are So Challenging 06:00 The Evolution of Modern Relationships 09:00 Shifting Needs: From Religion to Relationships 12:00 Contempt: The Biggest Relationship Killer 15:00 Staying Single in the Era of Romantic Consumerism 20:00 Emotional Connection and Object Constancy 24:00 How Ghosting Affects Modern Dating 26:00 The Role of Stories in Relationships 30:00 Understanding Polarization in Couples and Communities 34:00 Emotional Availability: Words vs. Actions 38:00 The Influence of Technology on Connection 42:00 How to Practice Gratitude in Relationships 45:00 The Rise of Relational Intelligence in Workplaces 48:00 Practical Tips for Stronger Relationships 50:00 Reflecting on Radical Connection 52:00 Esther’s Personal Story of Family and Tradition How can Esther’s profound insights help you deepen your connections and transform your approach to love?