Why am I lonely around people? The Disturbing Psychology of Friendships

Elizabeth Filips โ€ข June 14, 2023
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Elizabeth Filips

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Local nerd sometimes makes YouTube videos. ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿฆฐ I'm Elizabeth, a doctor in London. I have a podcast, write and paint when I can. I love to think and talk about learning, creativity and reading. And how to find the time to do those things. I only wear black, change my mind a lot and hate habits :)

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โ˜ If you'd like to try out my favourite sleep story for free, the top 500 people to use this link will also get 25% off the yearly subscription for Aura! https://www.aurahealth.io/elizabethfilips People always say being alone is lonely, but I honestly don't think it even compares to how lonely I feel when I'm around people I love that don't care for me. With friendships either being the happiest and best or the absolute worst thing in my life, here are 5 frameworks for understanding and breaking down why your friendships might not feel as close, loving or caring as we want them to. I've also given journalling prompts for each to break them down! Please please let me know if they're helpful! To make your life easier: 0:00 Intro 4:34 The Trelawney Principle: sinister "good" friendships 10:58 Why you like bad boys 16:23 Destructive Entitlement: how we are the problem 20:47 How friendships change our brain 24:13 When and how to deal with an ended friendship 28:07 Catching up on sleep and us WHO AM I: I'm Elizabeth, a medical student, painter, YouTuber and Podcaster in London. I love to think and talk about life, art, medicine, books and meaning. And also how to find the time to do those things. If you'd like to watch me paint and talk about life, I do that on my podcast (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5NsPe2poaBRA0IPdTxJTQA) and if you'd like to read my thoughts and book notes, I have a newsletter you can join (https://go.elizabethfilips.com/newsletter). ๐Ÿ‘ฝ My Book on Organised Chaos: How to Succeed Without Habits or Consistency: https://lizziefilips.gumroad.com/l/krcnc ๐Ÿง  My Notion Templates to Work Better With Yourself: https://lizziefilips.gumroad.com If you want to stay in touch: ๐Ÿ–ค Patreon Team, we work together on Discord to get things done - https://www.patreon.com/elizabethfilips ๐Ÿ’Œ My Newsletter - https://go.elizabethfilips.com/newsletter ๐ŸŽ™My Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5NsPe2poaBRA0IPdTxJTQA ๐Ÿ“• My Book Club - https://go.elizabethfilips.com/thepensieve ๐Ÿ“ธ My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.filips/ ๐Ÿ’ป My Website - https://www.elizabethfilips.com/ ๐Ÿฅ My Twitter - https://twitter.com/lizziefilips Or leave a comment, I (try to) answer 100% of comments :)

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