Why Love Feels So Hard - And How to Finally Feel Safe in Your Relationship

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In this episode of The Dr. Hyman Show, I sit down with renowned relationship expert and bestselling author Jillian Turecki, relationship expert and bestselling author of It Begins With YOU, to uncover why modern love feels so chaotic and how to build a foundation of true safety. We discuss the fear of not being good enough, a common challenge in personal development, and how it can impact our relationships. It offers insights into navigating these feelings, fostering self love, selfesteem, and promoting overall mental health. Through understanding and addressing these core insecurities, viewers can embark on a journey of self improvement and personal growth. Jillian shares her personal journey through heartbreak and loss, revealing that the key to a healthy relationship isn't just about finding the right person—it's about becoming the right person. We dive deep into the science of emotional regulation, how to stop projecting your childhood trauma onto your partner, and practical tools to "fix your picker" so you stop repeating the same painful patterns. In this episode, we discuss: The Root Cause of Relationship Anxiety: Why the fear of deprivation drives us to self-sabotage. Emotional Regulation: How to use "The Pause" to stop the amygdala hijack during arguments. Lust vs. Love: Why cultural narratives and "sparks" often lead us to the wrong partners. Rupture and Repair: Why conflict isn't the problem, but how you fix it is everything. Heartbreak Recovery: Why you aren’t grieving the person, but the story you created about them. #relationships #selflove #mentalhealth #personaldevelopment #drhyman #jillianturecki #selfimprovement #relationshipadvice #healing #podcast #drmarkhyman Dr Hyman Black Friday (up to 35% off) - https://drhyman.com/pages/black-friday-2025?utm_source=dedicated&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=black_friday&utm_content=youtube_shownotes View Show Notes From This Episode https://drhyman.com/blogs/content/podcast-ep1093 Get Free Weekly Health Tips from Dr. Hyman https://drhyman.com/pages/picks?utm_campaign=shownotes&utm_medium=banner&utm_source=podcast Sign Up for Dr. Hyman’s Weekly Longevity Journal https://drhyman.com/pages/longevity?utm_campaign=shownotes&utm_medium=banner&utm_source=podcast Join the 10-Day Detox to Reset Your Health https://drhyman.com/pages/10-day-detox Join the Hyman Hive for Expert Support and Real Results https://drhyman.com/pages/hyman-hive This episode is brought to you by Seed, BON CHARGE, Function Health, Sunlighten, Timeline and Paleovalley. Visit https://seed.com/hyman and use code 20HYMAN for 20% off your first month of Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic. This holiday season get 25% off until December 31st. Head to https://boncharge.com to receive this offer today! Join today at https://FunctionHealth.com/Mark and use code MARK2026 to get $50 OFF toward your membership. Head over to https://sunlighten.com and save up to $1400 or more this holiday season with code HYMAN. Support essential mitochondrial health and save 20% on Mitopure. Visit https://timeline.com/drhyman to get 20% off today. Get nutrient-dense, whole foods. Head to https://paleovalley.com/hyman for 15% off your first purchase. (0:00) Introduction to Jillian Turecki and Emotional Regulation (1:13) Heartbreak, Rebuilding Connection, and Moving On (2:07) Dr. Hyman's Personal Insights on Relationships (3:34) Jillian's Journey from Yoga to Relationship Expertise (7:39) Impact of Childhood and Cultural Conditioning on Relationships (10:12) Understanding Passion, Friendship, and Self-Regulation in Relationships (16:44) Techniques for Managing Emotional Dysregulation (20:38) Strategies for Healing Emotional Wounds (29:31) The Process of Grieving and Building Healthy Relationships (35:59) The Art of Repairing Relationship Ruptures (41:20) Sponsor: Hyman Hive and Supplement Stacks (42:16) Managing Expectations and Fostering Honesty in Relationships (45:22) Emotional Generosity and Character Traits in Partnerships (48:09) The Nine Truths About Love and Overcoming Fear (55:03) Cultivating Present Moment Awareness and Empathy (58:19) Keys to a Successful Relationship and Choosing the Right Partner (1:02:09) Jillian Turecki's Resources and Conclusion on Relationship Health