39 Brutal Truths I Know at 39 and Wish I Knew at 20

BigDeal by Codie Sanchez August 24, 2025
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I say it all the time: building real wealth doesn’t require a flashy startup — it just takes one boring, cash-flowing business. Join me at Main Street Millionaire Live to get my exact playbook for finding, buying, and scaling a business. Stop wondering how ownership could change your life, and come find out: https://contrarianthinking.biz/MSML26_BDYT I just turned 39! To celebrate, I’m sharing the 39 lessons I wish I’d learned sooner. Think of this as my personal cheat sheet for life: everything from why you should “choose your hard” and ask tougher questions, to why you should increase your decision-making velocity and keep your relationships a top priority. Along the way, I’ll share why I believe you should work hard before you try to work smart, the underrated power of being disliked, and how faith has fueled my own dreams. You’ll hear my take on acting now (instead of waiting for perfect timing), choosing courage over comfort, and protecting your reputation like it’s gold. For anyone looking to level up -- this one is for you. 00:00 Introduction 00:07 Choosing Your Hardships 00:20 The Power of Questions 00:36 Amateurs vs. Pros 00:48 Chasing Purpose, Not Billions 01:01 Weaponized Distraction 01:26 Financial and Fitness Wisdom 01:41 Surround Yourself with Good People 02:04 Prioritizing Relationships 02:20 Private Reps Lead to Greatness 02:29 Advice from the Right People 02:52 Inconvenience Yourself for Others 03:34 The Muscle of Urgency 03:52 Understanding Leverage 04:18 Building and Criticizing 04:45 Inputs Become Outputs 04:51 The Cost of Inaction 05:08 Simplicity Over Complexity 05:21 Momentum and Success 05:39 Keeping Promises 06:01 Stand Out and Fight 06:05 Faith Over Worry 06:25 Nobody Cares, So Do What You Want 06:57 Play the Long Game 07:22 Wake Up Early 07:29 Work Hard to Work Smart 07:59 Reputation Matters 08:19 Ask Questions, Get Dirty 08:31 Overcoming Self-Doubt 08:42 Go Big or Go Home 09:05 Comfort is the Enemy MORE FROM BIGDEAL: 🎥 Youtube: / @podcastbigdeal 📸 Instagram: / bigdeal.podcast 📽️ TikTok: / big.deal.pod MORE FROM CODIE SANCHEZ: 🎥 Youtube: / @codiesanchezct 📸 Instagram: / codiesanchez 📽️ TikTok: / realcodiesanchez OTHER THINGS WE DO: 🌐 Our community: https://contrarianthinking.typeform.com/to/WBztXXID 📰 Free newsletter: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3XWLlZp 📚 Biz buying course: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3NhjGgN 🏢 Resibrands: https://resibrands.com/ 💰 CT Capital: https://contrarianthinking.biz/4eRyGOk 🏛 Main St Hold Co: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3YfGa8u

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