When the Turn On Becomes a Turn Off: Our Sexual Fantasies | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel February 10, 2025
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Welcome to the official YouTube page of Esther Perel. Psychotherapist, podcaster, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is one of today’s most insightful voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she runs a therapy practice in New York City, consults for Fortune 500 companies, and has captivated global audiences with her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, which are translated into over 30 languages worldwide. She is the host of the critically acclaimed podcast Where Should We Begin?, and has appeared onstage all over the world , from TED (talks have received over 40 million views) to SXSW to Cannes Lions. Subscribe to access expert resources to help you navigate the ever-evolving landscape of modern relationships — at home, at work, and everywhere in between. This YouTube channel is home to my podcast Where Should We Begin? For additional bonus content, join my community on Substack, Entre Nous.

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On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel:  Sexual preferences demand a lot of trust, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships. This week, Esther talks with a couple who are refreshingly open and honest about their fantasies. But after 15 years of marriage, his fetish is no longer her pleasure. Esther helps them uncover the underlying emotional needs driving their fantasies and encourages them to seek a broader and more emotionally connected sexual repertoire. About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com, by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram, or by joining my substack community Entre Nous at https://estherperel.substack.com for bonus content.

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