Alain de Botton: How To Fall In Love Again

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In this episode of Begin Again, philosopher and bestselling author Alain de Botton shares a deeply compassionate guide to repairing your love life and building a relationship with yourself that can last a lifetime. He opens up about his early struggles with belonging, the emotional weight of childhood trauma, and the transformative lessons he’s learned through decades of studying human relationships. Through gentle wisdom and radical honesty, Alain unpacks what keeps us stuck in patterns of pain, why love so often goes wrong, and how we might begin again with ourselves and with each other. From understanding victimhood and building emotional resilience, to facing regret and redefining success, this conversation invites you to rethink what it really means to live well. With philosophical clarity and a therapist’s care, Alain de Botton offers a roadmap not just to falling in love again, but to becoming the person you’re proud to be. 👉 Follow us on Instagram: @beginagain 🎥 Watch more on TikTok: @beginagainpod if you want to check out more from Alain, his website 'The School of Life' can be found here: https://www.theschooloflife.com 💚 00:00 Intro 00:15 Who Is Alain de Botton? 01:18 Finding Inner Strength Through Love 07:04 Healing Emotional Wounds From Childhood 12:26 Letting Go of the Victim Mentality 21:30 Choosing Love When Life Feels Hopeless 25:09 Why Deep Friendships Matter in Adulthood 28:19 The Fear of Love and 'The One' 36:16 Adobe Ad 37:24 Saying No and Discovering Your True Self 45:14 Feeling Safe With Your Weirdest Self 52:09 How to Find the Right Therapist 56:11 Creating Space for Emotional Reflection 59:31 Learning to Live With Regret 01:03:12 Moving On With Emotional Scars 01:07:10 What Can You Do Today? Sponsored by: Adobe - http://adobe.ly/Davina Sync ID: MB01PBMKMGMLXGV