Relationship Lies and Complex Trauma: Why Love Feels Unsafe

Tim Fletcher October 17, 2025
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Tim Fletcher is a pioneer in the Addictions and Complex Trauma field. After 30+ years of helping others as a pastor, his own trauma recovery and work in addictions treatment led him to recognize how deeply Complex Trauma intersects with addiction, mental health, behavior, and coping. Tim founded the RE/ACT program and later Tim Fletcher Co. His work has since shaped our LIFT Program, ALIGN Courses, COMPASS Program, and more. We're a team who’ve faced Complex Trauma ourselves and are committed to supporting others in their recovery. Through Tim’s free videos, our courses, community support, and our intensive programs, we’re helping change the landscape of Complex Trauma recovery. If you’re wondering where to begin, we invite you to start with Tim’s videos here on YouTube. If you need more guidance, reach out to us — you don’t have to do this alone.

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Trauma survivors may believe “anything is better than being alone,” “love has no boundaries,” or “my partner should just know what I need.” These distorted beliefs create codependency, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics that sabotage intimacy. Healing begins by replacing relationship lies with truth, learning boundaries, and building authentic, secure connections. Tim explores some of the Relationships Lies you may not even realize you believe. 💙 Save 50% on all three Relationships and Complex Trauma courses when you get them together: https://bit.ly/evergreen-relationships-bundle Do YOU have complex trauma? Take the quiz HERE: https://bit.ly/CPTSD-Quizzes Join our Community! https://bit.ly/join-the-community-tf Unsure where to begin? Reach out to us HERE: https://bit.ly/ReachOut-TimFletcher Check out articles, resources, courses, and programs on our website: https://bit.ly/TimFletcherCo 🎧Watch or listen to the Time With Tim Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@TimeWithTimPodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Your membership supports our mission to change the landscape of complex trauma recovery. Join our YouTube channel HERE: https://bit.ly/JoinTimFletcher Bite-sized and affordable complex trauma recovery. Explore EVERGREEN Courses HERE: https://bit.ly/evergreen-courses Understand the development of complex trauma in your life, discover how addictions are formed and find healthy ways to cope, or learn how to parent yourself and your child with complex trauma. Explore ALIGN Self-Study Courses HERE: https://bit.ly/ALIGNCourses Dig deep into the roots of your complex trauma and gain tools to heal & recover long-term. Explore the LIFT Online Learning Programs HERE: https://bit.ly/LIFTProgram #relationships #complextrauma #mentalhealthrecovery #healingjourney #cptsd #childhoodtrauma See the original livestream: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBJP7LKDo9M --- Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist; he is a counsellor in Canada and has worked with people with Complex Trauma and Addiction for decades. Tim’s videos are for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.

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