Disorganized Attachment: How to Embrace Your Needs | Dr. Rick, Being Well

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Dr. Rick and I explore disorganized, or “fearful,” attachment. This complex style occurs when emotional intimacy and distance both feel uncomfortable, and typically arises based on difficult life experiences. We unpack why this attachment pattern forms, what it feels like on the inside, and how it can change over time. Dr. Rick explains how to break the Catch-22 of disorganized attachment, and how fully embracing and expressing your needs can be the key to finding stability. Topics include hypersensitivity, repression, experiencing out, self-regulation, and why "boring" relationships can be transformative. Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 2:10 How attachment theory developed, and how it has evolved 11:20 How attachment styles shift based on life experience 15:25 Social environment and internal reliability 23:00 The catch 22 of healing disorganized attachment 28:45 Leveraging coping mechanisms for healing 31:35 Hypersensitivity and embracing your need for attunement 40:15 Repression, and experiencing out 45:20 Recognizing what’s true, and how reality is reliable 48:00 Caring for the body, and innate self-love 52:45 Unique therapeutic approaches to disorganized attachment styles 54:00 Embracing what you really want, and creating a coherent narrative 57:25 Bottom-up self-regulation, self-trust, and internalizing positive feedback 1:02:55 When stable relationships are “boring” 1:05:30 Self-respect and freedom in communication Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. Subscribe to Rick on YouTube: http://youtube.com/@RickHanson?sub_confirmation=1 Get Rick's Free Newsletters: https://rickhanson.com/writings/newsletters-from-dr-rick-hanson/ Follow Rick Here: 🌍 https://rickhanson.com/ 📸 https://www.instagram.com/rickhansonphd I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice. You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸 https://www.instagram.com/f.hanson