What I've Learned: A Short Guide to a Good Life

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Over the last six years I’ve had over a hundred conversations with world-class experts on psychology, mental health, and personal development, and I’ve read hundreds of books and studies to prepare for those conversations. In this video I give you a crash course in the most important lessons I’ve learned so far. This is what I wish I knew when I started. Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 0:28 Change is possible, but change is hard 2:19 Focus on what you can control 3:50 The consistency principle 5:22 Punishing ourselves is a losing strategy 7:02 What are you pursuing? 8:41 The negativity bias 11:03 Why you don't have self-worth 12:59 Change the beliefs you have about yourself 16:29 Forming a coherent narrative 18:54 Set reasonable expectations 21:54 The middle path 22:49 Homeostasis and social pressure 24:44 How to get good at anything 27:15 Willpower, and avoiding willpower 27:57 Don’t know mind 29:56 The trap of self-awareness 31:02 Risking disappointment 32:44 The function of bad habits 34:34 Look for those who support you 35:47 Changing our models of relationship 38:18 Authenticity 40:09 Embrace good conflict 42:09 Contempt 43:47 Start by joining 46:09 Experiencing out 47:27 Joining with the defense 48:47 Moving toward to move away 50:09 Learning to trust yourself Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice. You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸 https://www.instagram.com/f.hanson